There are eight things I love to see in guys; nine which garner my full respect.
1. The guy who does what he should–all the way
A guy who is faithful in all the little things is hard to find. This guy simply knows his job at work, his role at home, his place in church, and all the tasks that go along with them. And he brings those tasks to completion. He is reliable, and he has my respect.
2. The guy who consistently does what he didn’t need to
This is a guy who goes above and beyond. He offers words of encouragement and timely phone calls. He offers apologies for the smallest things that twinge his conscience. He seeks to draw out people that he didn’t need to love. He is thoughtful and caring, and he has my respect.
3. The guy who really romances his wife
This guy doesn’t date his wife because it’s the cool Christian thing to do. He really knows her and continues to woo her and surprise her. He takes initiative in planning evenings at home, dates and conversations. He works hard to make her swoon, he shows me what ‘Christ and his bride’ looks like, and he has my respect.
4. The guy who is a good friend
A guy who remembers what you’ve told him and upholds you in prayer. A guy who is willing to hold you accountable, not just at your weekly accountability meetings, but with all of life. He is faithful, loyal, and willing to have tough conversations and make meaningful observations into my life. He has my respect.
5. The guy who strikes a wise balance of tender & tough at home
This guy doesn’t pass off the problems with his children to his wife, but is proactive and gets involved in his family issues. When there is discipline to be meted out, he takes the burden on himself, but when a knee is scraped or feelings are hurt, his family knows they have his shoulder and his ear. He is gentle & bold like Jesus, and he has my respect.
6. The guy who is really good at something
He has counted the cost and invested himself in something meaningful. He has learned and honed a skill that he uses for the glory of God. His excellence and his discipline show me his maker, and he has my respect.
7. The guy who is genuinely humble
More than the gift of speaking Christianese, this man places the interests of others ahead of himself. He doesn’t compete and gladly disappears in the background for the sake of bringing Jesus to the foreground. He owns his sin, feels forgiven, and serves his heart out. He has my respect.
8. The guy who has fought for purity
He has battle scars, but has emerged victorious, having fought the good fight for purity in a sexually-saturated, lust-filled world. He tells others of the power of Jesus to save from the guilt and the power of sin, he treasures women like God does, and he has my respect.
9. The pastor who effectively prioritizes
He labours, like the apostles in Acts 6, to free himself from the ‘good’ of ministry to focus on the ‘best’ of God: the ministry of the word & prayer. This man has fought through day timers and planners, schedules and how-to books, and found a way to have consistent communion with his God and minister out of the overflow of his heart. He has risen above being ‘busy’ and set an example for the rest of us still trying to figure out how to keep up. This man makes much of God, and he has my respect.
10. Your call
Who do you respect? What virtues or traits call forth respect in your view?